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“The secret to being happy – be kind, be kind, and be kind.“ – Fred Rogers At one of my previous jobs, the DISC profile was used to differentiate personalities in the workplace culture. It’s broken down into four different colors to represent personality traits: Red – Dominance; Yellow – Influencing; Green – Steadiness; BlueContinue reading “colors.”

Saturday night’s upcoming gig. Communication. (Letting the cat out of the bag in a GOOD way) Self awareness. The music of Lyle Mays. Positive decisions. Wearing my comfy sweater and my Levi’s. My kale/pineapple/orange smoothie. WORKING FROM HOME TOMORROW AND FRIDAY!! (and getting a floating day off in December! 😎)

One of the most valuable tools that I’ve learned in therapy is the importance of looking at situations (past, present and future) with a different perspective. This isn’t necessarily from another person’s point of view, but it’s more about finding my own different viewpoint. I’ve always had a “black and white” outlook on things….very muchContinue reading “just reframe it…..”

“Whatever you focus on expands your experience.” – Rev. Trish Hall This is a “planned but unexpected” weekend…it could’ve been a FOMO weekend, as Jenn is away at a conference (with Miss Vitriol….sorry dear)… Three great things have happened this weekend – first, I played a phenomenal gig in Charlottesville on Friday night as aContinue reading “life is funny sometimes.”

We all have our goals of perfection in life, whether it be getting the perfect score on an exam or an audition, or our moments of being the hero by scoring the home run in the bottom of the ninth. For many years, I had this almost idyllic goal in my head, and not onlyContinue reading “the pursuit of unattainable musical perfection….and how it damn near killed me.”

VITRIOLIC Most people will sympathize when others apologize. This is just a plain and simple fact. Constant darkness in your scene, being cruel and oh so mean, Is this how your always going to act? Vitriolic, don’t have many friends will not even try to ever make amends. Vitriolic, never kind or warm, you haveContinue reading “a song for alanis morrisette or a spoken word by helen mirren….either one works for me.”

An amazing weekend. Hearing laughter that I have not heard in a long time. The ability to say that “I was wrong” or “I’m sorry” without the overwhelming feeling of having to be defensive. A nice car ride on a fall afternoon, listening to the Moody Blues “Days of Future Passed” album. The support, loveContinue reading “8 things for which I’m very thankful today.”

This was an amazing weekend. I reunited and reconnected with a lot of friends that I don’t see very often, plus I got to spend time with my family. It was pure joy to go to the Ithaca football game at the Meadowlands…to see close friends, and to also reunite with friends from college wasContinue reading “friends and family.”

Sometimes insomnia can be a good thing. I’ve been up since 3am today….after a couple of hours of sending emails and realizing that drinking warm milk, counting sheep or putting on a Kenny G record would not put me back to sleep, I had an “a-ha moment” while deep in thought. I thought about notContinue reading “the a-ha moments.”

“You know how Lane is.” From my dad saying that to my teachers and my peers growing up, to my friends using that as an excuse to write me off, to the point that I was saying these to myself almost like a mantra in front of the mirror. It’s been very easy to useContinue reading “five words that will no longer define me.”